Sunday, January 22, 2012

Should I still buy a gift?

My sister is getting married at the end of this month. I have paid for airline tickets to fly there for the wedding. I have also arranged all of the flowers and paid for them.





Am I still required to buy them a wedding "gift" since I have been out so much expense already?


- as an additional note, my sister has lived with her fiancee for 7 years and they have two children together. She has not registered for gifts anywhere.





I would just like some advice on what the proper protocal would be for this.

Should I still buy a gift?
Since you took care of the flowers (which are quite expensive), I would just get her a card and maybe a small, inexpensive gift. After all, she is your sister. If it were a friend or other "non-blood acquaintance), I would say that the flowers were enough.
Reply:keep it small..i would take a great picture of the two of you....get it developed and put it in a great fram that you decorate the outside with the color of her wedding or with some dried flowers..i did this for my friend who got married and i was in her wedding and spent alot of money on the dress and shower and other planning...she loved it...she said it was the sweetest thing she had gotton...cost me about 5 bucks..
Reply:The flowers are fantastic. A card just expressing how happy you are for her, or maybe if you have a picture of the four of them, you could frame that or something small. But you've done enough!
Reply:No. I think that the flowers are your gift and the expense of your airline tickets are enough. I believe the best gift you are giving to your sister is being there for her and the time you took to arrange her flowers will be the best gift you could give her and she will know this. Have a great trip.
Reply:I think you've done enough and I can't imagine your sister would expect more. If I was her, I would consider the flowers your "wedding gift" to me and I'd just be thrilled that you'd bought the tickets to be there for my special day. My sister (although nearby)was in similar circumstances, I paid for her veil, shoes and the cake and she was thrilled with that. If it still worries you could you ask a parent what they think?
Reply:I think what you've done is gift enough. I'm sure she understands and doesn't expect anything else.
Reply:The fact that you had to buy an airline ticket is irrelevant. The fact that she lived with her finace is irrelevant. That they have two children is irrelevant. That she is not registered for gifts is irrelevant.


The only relevant thing is that you are attending, which means you should get them something. But I don't see why the flowers can't be your gift. However, for the flowers to be your gift, you should present the idea from the outset that way: "Linda, I would love, as a wedding gift for you and Greg, to provide and arrange your flowers."
Reply:hmm. well since shes your sister i would say deffinatly to get her a present
Reply:The airline tickets really shouldn't be considered, but arranging and paying for all the flowers is a major gift. A lovely card would be the only other thing you should give. (what a nice sister you are!!!)
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Reply:I agree that a heartfelt gift that is not too expensive would be nice. Someone framed my sister's wedding invitation and she loved it. Maybe you could do something similar - if not the invitation/announcement, then a nice picture of the new Mr. and Mrs.





I would also give her a card and write some well wishes in it. I treasure cards with messages on them - so few people take the time to write (we all email now) it would be something I bet she'd appreciate.





Have a great time at the wedding -
Reply:i don't think the airline tickets count. but certainly providing the flowers is gift enough. of course, still give a card, if you feel awkward not giving anything, you might mention that you hope the flowers were what she wished for. this will let her know that you consider those the gift
Reply:It all depend on how much you love your sister
Reply:Is probably not required on this case, but as you have a close relationship with the bride, it will be a good idea to give her a gift, after all is your sister and it will mean a lot if you give her something, don't necessaryly a expensive or typical weding gift, you can try a nice neclace for her to wear on her "special day" or something like that that she could keep and remember as a gift of her sister. Yes, is true that you are paying a lot already, but if she is getting married after all this time, is probably because still this weeding mean a lot to her, otherwise why to do it now.


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